Objectifying vs. Noticing
Many spouses question us about looking at women. We cannot just look at the ground when we are in public. There are beautiful and attractive women all over the world. We need to respect them for the people they are and not objectify them. Not just looking at body parts. The difference between noticing and objectifying lies in the intention, perception, and treatment of the subject being observed.
- Noticing involves simply perceiving or becoming aware of something or someone.
- It can be a neutral act, where one acknowledges the existence or presence of an object, person, or characteristic without necessarily reducing it to its physical appearance or other superficial qualities.
- Noticing typically does not involve reducing the subject to mere parts or attributes; instead, it acknowledges the subject's holistic existence.
- Objectifying involves reducing a person or thing to the status of an object, often for the purpose of gratification or exploitation.
- It involves viewing the subject solely in terms of its physical attributes or utility, ignoring its inherent humanity or individuality.
- Objectification often involves a power dynamic, where one party exerts control or dominance over the objectified subject.
- It can lead to dehumanization, disrespect, and the reinforcement of harmful stereotypes and social inequalities.
In summary, noticing is a passive act of observation or awareness, whereas objectifying involves an active reduction of a subject to its physical or utilitarian aspects, often disregarding its intrinsic worth or dignity. One way to help, eyes bouncing around the room rather than focusing on a person that could be objectified. Another way is to use the three second rule. The spirit of this tool is that as soon as we become aware, we turn the behavior over to our Higher Power and ask for help as quickly as we can.