“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”
direct amends – means directly reaching out in-person, by phone or by letter.
would injure them or others – means we might bring up old harms that might cause trouble for the one harmed.
Step Nine involves taking action to repair the harm caused by our past actions or behaviors. It encourages us to reach out to those we have harmed, injured, or wronged in some way and seek to make amends for our actions. The focus is on personal accountability, reconciliation, and the restoration of damaged relationships.
It is important to note that while Step Nine encourages making amends whenever possible, it also emphasizes the need to consider the potential consequences of our actions. If making amends would cause further harm or distress to the individual or others involved, it is recommended to approach the situation with caution.
The process of making amends can vary depending on the circumstances and the willingness of the individuals involved. It may involve sincere apologies, taking responsibility for our actions, and making restitution if appropriate. However, the outcome is only sometimes within our control, and the emphasis is placed on the effort and willingness to make things right rather than the specific outcome of the amends.
It is worth mentioning that the Twelve Steps and their interpretations may differ across different recovery programs and organizations, but the underlying principles generally remain consistent in promoting personal growth, amends, and recovery.