There is Hope and Healing for all of us!

My journey of becoming addicted to sexuality started when I was 8yrs old and lasted for decades, putting my wife, Connie, through pure hell. At one point, I went to her saying she had to divorce me. I couldn’t stop my acting out and didn’t know how to heal. We divorced later that year tearing our family apart. After some earnest attempts to get free from the compulsive behaviors, and showing her I had made changes (although without therapeutic help),  by God’s grace, we remarried three years later. I would love to say that life was magical after that but that would be a lie. Four years later, I was back using sexual behaviors. Needless to say, she was devastated. She finally set specific boundaries for herself so she could feel safe in our relationship.  Now I had a choice to make. Her boundaries finally started me on a serious journey of recovery. One of her boundaries was to find a counselor. I met a counselor who explained to me “Why I did what I did, and how not to do it again”. As a result, I finally established and maintained my sexual sobriety for the first time in decades.

This is where my journey of Relational Recovery with Connie started. By learning and understanding emotions, how to stay present with her, to not get defensive and go into survival mode when she was needing clarity and a deeper understanding of why I could hurt her the way I did, I was learning how to help her heal. I learned to be humble, honest, and vulnerable and to empathize with her. I learned to grieve the pain, devastation, and betrayal trauma I put her through. In essence, how to rebuild her trust in the man that had destroyed her world. This process was not smooth sailing for us.

My heart’s passion is to help men get free from the compulsive, destructive behaviors of sexual addiction and help them have an emotionally intimate relationship with their partner. It is possible.

As a Relational Recovery Coach, I work with men individually, in groups, and in couples coaching. I also prepare men for Therapeutic Disclosures. Connie and I work together to help couples in their journey of recovery from the devastation of betrayal through the Daring Ventures Couple Centered Recovery Model.

If my story can be a picture of redemption for you, it would be my honor to share it with you.
The fight for redemption and reconciliation is a fight worth fighting for...you and her! You’re both worth it.

My background is in the military and business. I am a United States Military Academy at West Point Graduate. In the Army I was a Combat Engineer Platoon Leader, Executive Officer, and Company Commander. As a commercial excavation business owner and operator, I led a diversified 180 man excavation, mining, and transportation company for 40 years.